Things that do not happen when a gay person hits on straight ones

Funny post. It seems I was always hit on more by gay men than I ever was women - something my wife teased me about over the years. Of course now with my 30-something paunch and baby spit on my shoulder it doesn't happen much anymore.

My favorite was when I was in Reno and a guy propositioned me in the bathroom and then quickly added, “I'm not gay or anything.”

LOL! actually it's sad…

Alan, it is a huge problem. I hate to hear boys using the word gay as a derogatory random word too.

Girls have less problems with fearing to appear lesbian. I enjoy watching girls unselconsciously hug in public or walk around with their arms draped around each other just because they are friends.

Happily many societies aren't as uptight about gays in general or about physical closeness between men in specific.

Let me jump in here and give a litte GAY perspective.

First of all, Alan, thanks for writing this.  GOOD FOR YOU.  Yes, how can LOVE ever be bad?

I have more heterosexual friends than I do homosexual friends.  And who cares what their preference is, they are your friends.  My straight male friends absolutely adore me and I them.  I've even had a crush on one of my dearest friends and told him and we still sit on the couch together, hug heartily and sometimes give each other a peck on the lips.  But he has a great sense of self too, without fear of being “invaded,” violated or put out by who I AM.

It is a funny thing that I've been hit on by women over the years.  Why? I don't know because I'm, in my opinion, so obviously GAY - that is, if one can be so obviously GAY (remember, this is coming from the GAY perspective).  I'm honored when it happens.  It is the impetus to connect, even if just sexually, that interests me.  And like you, Alan, I simply tell them my preference and am not offended, have no fear that the lady might jump my “bone” or whatever.  But again, I am comfortable and know who I AM, my preferences.

I think what a lot of people associate with differences in others is when they are approached in inappropriate ways that pursue something within them.  For instance, when a gay man just won't take NO for an answer from a straight man.  But that is in all parts of our society, not just the realms of sexual preference.  In cases like this I'd say, “Walk away.”  You are in control of your feet.

Okay, I'm rambling here.

Nicole, boys hear this term and sometimes don't really know what it means.  They are just repeating something that they have heard and have no experience of.  See, I think the problem is people, as if they really know all about something, speaking from a place of knowing when indeed they have no experience of what they speak.

I make a habit of trying to meet people in their hearts.  I beam out my love to all people and they know me for that.  Anyone who sees me as “that gay guy” only or upon first meeting me, I walk away from.  After all, we are all divine embodiments of love.  I love people sometimes in spite of who they appear to be or who they say they are or who they identify with.

Again, thanks for this post.

thanks so much, John, I always learn important things from you. you're right. you are indeed a divine embodiment of love. the more i learn about you the more awed i am.

thanks alan for opening up this conversation. each blog discussion makes me feel richer, more open, more connected.

Yes thank you for this post Alan.  Just like Satya/John I have more straight male friends than gay males and boy they are adorable.  My straight male friends go out to the gay bars more than I do, I haven't gone out in years.  They tell me stuff like, “If I am gay I would definitely hit on you.”  LOL
You too Alan is adorable, keep the open mind and be a role model.  Thank you.
Samme

Alan you rock…I miss you here in the states, man.

I love diversity and variety…friends are friends…I feel sorry for anyone who has not experienced friends who have different sexualities.

Discrimination in general in my opinion should be included in the DSM III, as insanity.

Honestly if there is one social issue that fires me up in this society…this is it.

I just do NOT “get it”…even the WORD homosexuality…is silly…or heterosexual.
How silly to put  WORDs on love. And if they HAD to add a word, couldn't they have made it better?…lol
Gay is cool I suppose…since it means happy…but I still think it is all silly to use words of separation. Now kids even use the term “gay” to mean “silly”…words can be misunderstood…and used in so many different ways.


Personally I prefer the word person….for all of us.


But then I never have gotten what it means to be separated from others too much. But I do know what it is like to have people separate from me, and it doesn't feel good.

Love and attraction should be cheered on the planet…they are basic needs, and should be honored with positive thoughts if the adult parties involved, are comfortable, and the approach is kind and repectful.

Some people have no clean WATER to drink…………………….are ya feelin' me here?

Love is life…sex is awesome…society needs to get a grip and figure out how to help get the core basics to our brothers and sisters who cry in the night.

It drives me absolutely crazy to watch the insanity on this planet.

Friends are great…does it really matter who they want to um…..?

Just so long as I get to hear about it, and we are all happy. :)

I think about my male friends who co-incidentally are inclined to the same sex as I and I get a sensitivity that I've never received from a so-called straight male. I assure you, this particular element of diversity has definitely enriched my life and at times when I really needed such understanding, just when it counted. No complaints at this end!

I then observed my supposedly straight partner at the time, treat such a dear individual as I described above with disrespect and discrimination and it hurt me to the core. I subsequently dispatched with said partner and still have that wonderful friend in my close circle. He was evidence of God loving me at a time, like I said, I needed to have that. I wasn't going to bail on him when it was my time!

The human cause is bigger than the rudiments of love; it's much deeper. It's about loving ALL humanity…

I invite you to take a look at a beautiful story from my colleague Samwise which he posted in People Potential some time back. it might be interesting for all of you to see the extent of the 'problem' and how this manifests itself in real life. I'm always about how to overcome these things though, so please view it with some positivity, thank you.

Street Kids in Portland…http://pods.gaia.com/peoplepotential/discussions/view/261666

Love is enduring and forever; thank God for that.

Be blessed. I love you all. sherri

I've also never understood why so many people perceive love as such a threat. Maybe, if they concede that love is bigger than their definition for it, their whole house of cards will fall, like dominoes. Change one little concept and everything has to shift. For example, if Jesus wasn't a homophobe, then the very foundations of what the Christian religion has been founded on must be called into question. If one biblical mandate is untrue, then all the rest are called into question as well. That is too big an idea for most people to be able to deal with.

People are scared stupid! And I mean that in the most politically incorrect way… ;)
Hate is way less scary than love because it creates space between 'us' and 'them'. Love closes the gap.

Great conversation! I have a recent blog post on a similar topic, called Does God Hate?

that street kids in Portland thread is awesome. i'm glad i found it…

Samme is amazing! Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow in SF!